It is hard to imagine that women get as pent up as men when it comes to doing it. Testosterone appears to be more aggressive when it comes to craving a release. When it comes to the release I get from sex, however, it is understandable how estrogen can also go bat-shit crazy for getting some, as well. Whether it is in our individual mind to crave such act and connection, or hormones which control our desires, sexual intercourse is, indeed, pleasurable and can be addictive.
As a woman who not only enjoys sex and intimacy, I also advocate for doing it frequently. Though singles and child-free couples may be able to do it more than those with kids or those with lots of time invested in a relationship, to me, it is vital that those who are committed in an intimate, loving, and responsible relationship engage in a lot of sex. Frequency may not be a barometer of how things are going within a commitment, but it does assume the importance of time and connection each person will make to show up. Couples who love each other make time for one another.
Recently, I had the pleasure of finding out how long one must wait to make time and keep it. There were plenty of opportunities to get together and do it, even if it was rather quick. When one has other obligations, however, or differences in schedule, postponement comes unexpectedly. Though both are determined to do it, sometimes, it just does not happen.
There may be many reasons as to why intimacy and connection no longer takes place, or takes place irregularly, and though it appears to be comparable to torture, or desires unfulfilled, sometimes, it is for the better. After all, sex changes the dynamics of our hormonal structure and can control our mind in unfathomable ways. Most of us will try to control our craving to it, because if not, we would then give in to our more beastly ways.
